Identifying a Hipster Spinster

So what, exactly, is a Hipster Spinster?

A hipster spinster values both change and traditional values. In our culture today, there is a dynamic disparity between the modern and the traditional. Either you are a wild-and-free swinging single, or you are desperate, needy and... boring. Somewhere along the way, our society has gravitated to extremes. In order to become needed, valued and accepted in the workplace, women have morphed into hyper-masculine charcitures of themselves. At the same time fashion, media and the celebrity-worshipping pop-culture culture tells us to be thinner, fitter, flatter, hippy-er and lippy-er. We have reduced feminity to the size of our waist and our boobs.

Out of one side of it's mouth our culture tells little girls that they can be whatever they can dream, and out of the other it says that they can only be it if they are a size zero, unencumbered by a man or children, and willing to sacrifice the most womanly aspects of themselves on the altar of education and "success." Alternatively, if one wants to pursue marriage and children then she is giving up on success and can only be truely happy if she finds a "soul mate" who "completes" her. The hipster spinster recognises this for the sillyness it is. There is no reason why women cannot be sensible and modest and still trendy and fun. There is no reason I cannot be both successful and feminine. I can tell you how to host a wonderful party without being a stepford wife and I can crochet you a blanket and still give you tips on managing your 401k.

The hipster spinster embraces her singleness without rejecting marriage outright. She is single, not because she chooses to be, not because she has a need to be fabulous and free, but because she hasn't found the right partner for life. She recognises that men are flawed, even as she is flawed, and that expecting a single person to offer her completion is futile. She values femininity in women and masculinity in men, and the two have not become blurred or confused in her head.

A hipster spinster does not snark at her friends as they progress onward toward married life, or advance upward in their career. She doesn't get angry or jealous or frustrated, but is happy for their change in pace. She throws showers and parties and delights in her close friend's joy. She always brings a gift and a smile, and leaves any trepidation about her own circumstances behind the walls of her bedroom door (or perhaps on the wavelength of a telephone conversation with a fellow spinstress). She never cuts people out of her life simply because their circumstances change, but allows her friendships to ripen into new seasons as years go by.

It is time we embraced our femininity. There is no quarter. There is no compromise. It's time to take back the subtle grace that personifies the beautiful and submissive qualities of our gender. To be ladylike without being trod on. To hold our heads high and walk through doors that are held open for us without being offended by antiquated phrases like "the weaker sex." There is a quiet dignity to the feminine that has been forgotten like the panties of so many hard-partying starlets. Let's not let our culture define womanhood for our generation.

Fellow Hipster Spinstes, Unite!

Tales of Woe and Foreboding from a Hipster Spinster

Hello World.

I am Twenty Five. I am single. I am fun. I am interesting. I have a solid career. I own a comfortable condominium. I am the personification of American Feminist Achievement in the workplace. I am independent. I am sassy. I am domesticated. I love to wear skirts (especially if I can spin in them). I find joy in cooking a delicious meal. I will never fail to write you a thank you note.

I am a product of my generation.

I am the Hipster Spinster.

You are welcome to have met me.